Say this (quote to the left) to yourself whenever you are questioning your role as a mom. Every time that you pray over your babies, feed and clothe them, care for them when they are sick, be by their side when they are going through something or they are troubled, give them a shoulder to cry on, a roof over their head, transportation, a gazillion activities and gadgets and devices - you are doing a great job. No one is perfect at it. There isn’t a step-by-step manual - only God’s word and direction to lead them in the time that He has gifted you with them. One day, they will make their own decisions and choose their own paths. Continue to be there for them for the bumps along the way, and give them an opportunity to find themselves. Don’t fret over what you didn’t get right or feel guilty in the times that you had to say no. Give yourself some credit. The seeds you planted are still there; it’s God’s responsibility to water and harvest those seeds. Keep going. You’ve got this.